May 8, 2024

You Are Not Broken: Debunking the Illusion of Flawed Self Perception

BY Marc Mathys
In our journey through life, we often encounter moments of self-doubt and criticism where we believe we are broken or that something is inherently wrong with us. These feelings, though intense, are not reflections of reality. They are illusions stemming from our programming and conditioning. This blog post aims to dispel these illusions and reaffirm an essential truth: You are not broken, and there is nothing wrong with you.
 The Illusion of Being ‘Broken’ 
The belief of being ‘broken’ or ‘flawed’ is a common illusion that many of us grapple with. It often arises from continuously comparing ourselves to societal standards or ideals we feel we do not meet. However, it’s crucial to understand that these feelings are not rooted in our true selves. Instead, they are a product of our programming and conditioning. 
Understanding Our Programming 
Our programming, or the conditioning we receive from our environment, society, and early experiences, shapes our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If our experiences have repeatedly suggested that we are not ‘enough’ in some way, we start to internalize this narrative. We begin to see ourselves through a distorted lens, perceiving flaws and damage where there are none. 
Breaking Free from the Illusion 
Recognizing that our feelings of being ‘broken’ are illusions is the first step towards liberation. Here’s how you can begin to break free: 
1. Acknowledge Your Programming: 
The first step is to recognize the source of your feelings. Understanding that your self-perception has been influenced by external factors can help you start questioning the validity of these feelings. 
2. Challenge Your Beliefs: 
Start to question your internal narrative. Ask yourself, “Is this really true, or is it a belief I’ve adopted based on my experiences and conditioning?” 
3. Seek Evidence: 
Look for evidence that contradicts your feelings of brokenness. Acknowledge your strengths, achievements, and positive qualities, no matter how big or small. 
4. Practice Self-Compassion: 
Be gentle with yourself. Remind yourself that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes—it’s part of being human. You are not less valuable or worthy because of your perceived shortcomings. 
5. Reframe Your Narrative: 
Start to redefine your self-perception. Instead of seeing yourself as ‘broken,’ view your experiences as opportunities for growth and learning. 
6. Seek Support:
Sometimes, an outside perspective can help us see things more clearly. 
Remember that you are not broken, and there is nothing wrong with you. 
It’s easy to believe the illusion when we’re inundated with societal expectations and standards. But these external factors do not define your worth or value. You are a unique, evolving individual with inherent worth. 
Don’t let the illusion of being ‘broken’ dim your light. Instead, shine brighter, knowing that you are whole, valuable, and deserving of love and acceptance, just as you are.





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Hello I’m Marc the creator of the Reset-it program and a TedX speaker.


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