July 3, 2024

Understanding “It Doesn’t Belong to Me”: Unraveling Programming, Conditioning, and Beliefs

BY Marc Mathys
In our journey through life, we often come across moments of self-reflection where we realize certain beliefs, thoughts, or behaviors don’t quite resonate with our true selves. 
We might catch ourselves thinking, “It doesn’t belong to me.” But what does this really mean? 
The Roots of External Influences 
From the moment we are born, we are bombarded with information, expectations, and norms from our surroundings. Our families, schools, cultures, and societies shape our early understanding of the world and our place within it. This process is known as programming and conditioning. 
This refers to the deep-seated instructions instilled in us during our formative years. Think of it as the software that’s installed in our brains, directing our thoughts and actions.
This is the repetitive training we undergo, leading us to associate certain behaviors with rewards or punishments. Over time, we internalize these patterns, often without realizing it.
 The Influence of Beliefs Beliefs are powerful
They shape our reality by influencing how we perceive the world and our place in it. Many of our beliefs are inherited from those around us—parents, teachers, peers, and even the media. For instance, you might have grown up in a family that valued academic achievement above all else. As a result, you might find yourself pursuing a career path that doesn’t truly excite you, simply because you’ve internalized the belief that success is measured by scholastic and professional accomplishments. 
Recognizing What’s Truly Ours 
The realization that “it doesn’t belong to me” is a crucial step in personal growth. It’s an acknowledgment that some of our thoughts and behaviors are not genuinely ours but rather the result of external programming and conditioning. 
This awareness allows us to: 
1. Identify Inauthentic Beliefs: Start by questioning where your beliefs come from. Are they based on your personal experiences and values, or are they inherited from others? 
2. Challenge Conditioning: Recognize the habits and patterns that don’t serve your authentic self. Reset them with actions that align with your true desires. 
3. Restart Your Mind: Engage in activities and surround yourself with people who support your true self. This can help reinforce new, positive beliefs and behaviors. 
Moving Forward Embracing the idea that “it doesn’t belong to me” is liberating. It empowers you to shed the layers of programming and conditioning that have been imposed upon you. By doing so, you can start living a life that’s in harmony with your authentic self, making choices that reflect your true values and aspirations. 
Remember, personal growth is a continuous process. It requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to delve deep into your psyche. 
But the reward is a life that truly belongs to you—a life of genuine fulfillment and happiness. — By understanding and acting on this concept, you embark on a transformative journey, one where you reclaim your identity and pave the way for a more authentic existence. So next time you feel out of sync with a thought or behavior, take a moment to reflect and ask yourself, “Does this truly belong to me?”





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Hello I’m Marc the creator of the Reset-it program and a TedX speaker.


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